Basics of BDSM for New Dominants

Basics of BDSM for New Dominants

If you have stepped out of your vanilla relationship and are trying to add spice to your life, then BDSM will definitely be a cool option. When you are trying a BDSM relationship, you know that you will either be a dominant or a submissive. Although it seems that if you are a submissive, then your work is harder, yet it is not so; when you are a dominant, you have an additional responsibility of caring for your partner’s needs before your own needs.

So, if you are new to BDSM and need some help, here are some tips for you to follow.

Spankings

One of the most common elements of any BDSM relationship is spanking. However, what you need to understand is spanking can be erotic or non – erotic in nature. When you are punishing your submissive, spanking will be non – erotic in nature. Additionally, do remember to never vent out your anger on your submissive. He/she is your submissive, not a punching bag. Hence, it is better that you step away from a scene when you are angry.

The Desire

The BDSM relationship is made out of desire and trust. The trust factor ensures that you don’t misuse your power as a dominant/submissive. The desire factor ensures that you always take care of your partner’s needs along with your own needs. A relationship can thrive between two people only if there is desire and trust, and the same applies for BDSM relationships also. So, if you are stepping in from a vanilla relationship to a BDSM one, you need to remember that in order to have a successful relationship.

Thus, knowing about BDSM and trying is not a crime, and neither is it being pervert. It’s just an alternate lifestyle which few people know about. You can definitely try it to have peace of mind if you want.